Question: Do you want to date/be married again?

Believe it or not this seems to be the question everyone wants to know and one I am often asked. 

I suppose I will start by saying I do not think it's wrong, in any way, for a widow to want to be remarried. It is a personal decision for each. My advice would be to caution each widow to really take her time on it and not rush into anything because you are hurting or lonely. Another relationship won't fix those things, it will only magnify them. That's not fair to you or the other person you are with. 

As for me, I have no interest in dating or being remarried. There are several reasons for this. The biggest one being that I have two young children who lost their Father. They need/deserve every ounce of my love and attention right now. I'm very focused on them. 

I am also very focused on writing and the purpose that has emerged for me out of this crazy journey we have walked through. There are many things ahead for our family (more on that soon!!) that will take a lot of my time and energy. I want to tackle each opportunity with all that I have. Plainly said, I have too many things going on to have my heart divided by a relationship.

My relationship with Joel was incredible. I feel very fulfilled in that and in my love for him. I miss him so much and am of course lonely without him. On the flip side I can understand when people say how young I am & they want to see me "happy". For me happiness doesn't come merely from a man. I am very happy to be with, give my all to my children, and focus on leading my family to what's ahead for us. That leaves very little time for much else these days.

Again it is a personal choice for each widow, but for me it's not something I'm longing for, or that's even on my radar. I don't see that changing. 

Thank you for your question Kelly!